Comments on: My First Girlfriend Post-Divorce

By: Sandra

Sandra — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 00:27:40 +0000

My philosophy is that most of us need that one person that was “almost the one but didn’t work out” to happen to us. I think that it definitely better prepares us for the one we really end up with.

I’m glad I’ve had the “failures” I did in my dating life. I learned how to better chose a guy and how to be a better person.

I hope you find what you’re looking for. You have a lot going for you so good luck……….
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By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:59:01 +0000

BigLittleWolf – my wife was a few years older, but before my marriage I had always dated older women. I was always looking for someone wiser, with more life experience than me. I’ve changed a lot, and now want to be that older, wiser force. Yes, I could find an older woman who isn’t wise, but why is that good?

Also, I find that women older than me are thinking about their empty nest, and starting to plan a life after the kids are gone. I have a thirteen year old, and I won’t be an empty-nester for another 5 years. Sure, there are women my age with kids younger than mine, but I’ve found those women to be extremely busy and hard to date.

Finally, I do keep fit, and listen to current music, and tend to have more in common lifestyle-wise with younger women (late 30s) than older (early 50s).

Mark – read your comment. I’m not ruling anyone out. I date all ages. But I do find women younger than me tend to be a better fit.

By: Mark

Mark — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 14:30:38 +0000

Good post! Check out my comments on the guest post.
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By: BigLittleWolf

BigLittleWolf — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 13:07:15 +0000

There’s a reason some of us don’t date separated men (or women). And more than a few reasons that the “transitional” relationship isn’t the next permanent (?) relationship. Those I’ve known who try to make it permanent often find themselves with a second divorce on their hands only a year or two after. It’s that detox, come-to-know-yourself time that you mention.

But I am curious – why do you say you need to be “the older one” in the relationship now? It’s not the first time you’ve said it. Without getting too personal (but you’ve skirted the issue repeatedly) – how much older was your wife than you – or did she somehow seem or act much older than her age?

I like to be with people who share my ENERGY, and “stage” in life – dreams still to pursue, dealing with teens, still sexual and enjoying it. That’s what makes a somewhat younger man a better fit for me generally – not the year of his birth. He can be 50, still virile, with a couple of teens and a positive outlook, and we’ll mesh. He doesn’t have to be 42 with those same qualities; I’m not explicitly looking to be the “older one” in the relationship.

Answer or not… but I’m curious.
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By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 12:34:39 +0000

Glad to know that you wouldn’t change anything except, of course, seeing your kiddo’s more. When I divorced my first husband, I was 21 and he was 29. Even though we hadn’t been married a full year, it still hurt. Felt like a failure. But I grew from that experience and ended up marrying a younger man. Not that much younger, only a year younger, but I understand where you’re coming from! I’m sure you’ll find her!
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