Comments on: Married Couples Partying Without Single Parents http://dadshouseblog.com/2009/10/12/married-couples-party-without-single-parents/ Single Parent Dating, Raising Children, Parenting Teens Thu, 18 Mar 2010 14:36:29 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: mtnmama http://dadshouseblog.com/2009/10/12/married-couples-party-without-single-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-20176 mtnmama Sun, 22 Nov 2009 16:14:04 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=8170#comment-20176 i'm sorry this is happening to you but it's actually good to read this. i am a single mom by choice of 2 great kids. no divorce, just decided to be a mom. i have lots of wonderful events here which parents seem to generally want to attend yet i'm never, ever, invited to adult only parties. to say they think we would feel uncomfortable seems way off. it's about them. it's hurt me for a while. especially when two of them showed up at a party without their spouses (just didnt feel like coming) without ever letting me know beforehand. i found i was resenting some moms for this and decided to just cut out those out. this happened after a good friend of mine's husband invited pratically the whole preschool to her surprise 40th, but not me?!? strange, very strange. i now spend my efforts on those who reciprocate or initiate. good luck! this is a situation i never considered when i decided to become a mom. i’m sorry this is happening to you but it’s actually good to read this. i am a single mom by choice of 2 great kids. no divorce, just decided to be a mom. i have lots of wonderful events here which parents seem to generally want to attend yet i’m never, ever, invited to adult only parties. to say they think we would feel uncomfortable seems way off. it’s about them. it’s hurt me for a while. especially when two of them showed up at a party without their spouses (just didnt feel like coming) without ever letting me know beforehand. i found i was resenting some moms for this and decided to just cut out those out. this happened after a good friend of mine’s husband invited pratically the whole preschool to her surprise 40th, but not me?!? strange, very strange. i now spend my efforts on those who reciprocate or initiate. good luck! this is a situation i never considered when i decided to become a mom.

]]> By: Emom http://dadshouseblog.com/2009/10/12/married-couples-party-without-single-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-18812 Emom Sat, 17 Oct 2009 16:26:11 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=8170#comment-18812 I have been a single mom since just after my son was born 14 years ago. I have always been very active in his class, and athletic events. I have been very hurt recently, having found out that while I am invited to mom's night out dinners (occaisionlly), I am never invited to couple or family gatherings, and my son is friends with all of their kids. Now I am very aware of the mom cliques, and yes they are very real, but come on what is up? I am the only single parent in the entire group of parents. I am finding out about all these parties at my son's football games, when they mention to each other how much fun they all had. Excuse me, I'm sitting right here! Now that we are in high school my son is telling me (sage advice) to make new friends. I guess he heard me growing up, but it is still hurtful. I have been a single mom since just after my son was born 14 years ago. I have always been very active in his class, and athletic events. I have been very hurt recently, having found out that while I am invited to mom’s night out dinners (occaisionlly), I am never invited to couple or family gatherings, and my son is friends with all of their kids. Now I am very aware of the mom cliques, and yes they are very real, but come on what is up? I am the only single parent in the entire group of parents. I am finding out about all these parties at my son’s football games, when they mention to each other how much fun they all had. Excuse me, I’m sitting right here! Now that we are in high school my son is telling me (sage advice) to make new friends. I guess he heard me growing up, but it is still hurtful.

]]> By: Kim http://dadshouseblog.com/2009/10/12/married-couples-party-without-single-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-18702 Kim Tue, 13 Oct 2009 17:38:26 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=8170#comment-18702 Well, if they read your blog, they all now how you feel now. Well, if they read your blog, they all now how you feel now.

]]> By: caligirl94117 http://dadshouseblog.com/2009/10/12/married-couples-party-without-single-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-18676 caligirl94117 Tue, 13 Oct 2009 05:36:21 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=8170#comment-18676 As a childless single who lurks here, I wonder why it's easier to be with other parents. I've applied to college and can empathize with what your child is going through and would be a good listener. I might also want to carry on a conversation that is about YOU, in addition to your children. I know parents love their children, but why not spend time with people who are interested in YOU. I sense that you're establishing another exclusive identity in the same way that marrieds do by excluding you. As a childless single who lurks here, I wonder why it’s easier to be with other parents. I’ve applied to college and can empathize with what your child is going through and would be a good listener. I might also want to carry on a conversation that is about YOU, in addition to your children. I know parents love their children, but why not spend time with people who are interested in YOU. I sense that you’re establishing another exclusive identity in the same way that marrieds do by excluding you.

]]> By: Nancy http://dadshouseblog.com/2009/10/12/married-couples-party-without-single-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-18675 Nancy Tue, 13 Oct 2009 03:20:58 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=8170#comment-18675 ...generalizations are never a good strategy...of course single, childless people can be interesting or boring; childless couples can be interesting or boring...just like married people with children can be boring or interesting. it's probably better for most people, married, single, divorced, childless or not, to consider that people have a myriad of experiences which make up their lives and allow people of all different experiences and/or backgrounds...life situations, to relate to one another in many settings, parties, family events, etc. personally, i've found that parties and/or events which include a variety of people are the MOST interesting and the LEAST boring. …generalizations are never a good strategy…of course single, childless people can be interesting or boring; childless couples can be interesting or boring…just like married people with children can be boring or interesting. it’s probably better for most people, married, single, divorced, childless or not, to consider that people have a myriad of experiences which make up their lives and allow people of all different experiences and/or backgrounds…life situations, to relate to one another in many settings, parties, family events, etc. personally, i’ve found that parties and/or events which include a variety of people are the MOST interesting and the LEAST boring.

]]> By: dadshouse http://dadshouseblog.com/2009/10/12/married-couples-party-without-single-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-18674 dadshouse Tue, 13 Oct 2009 00:48:28 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=8170#comment-18674 Nancy - childless singles can be very interesting! So can childless couples (one of my sailing buddies falls into that category) I just have a lot in common with other parents. We're all talking about the college application process right now, since our daughter's on the club soccer team are all high school seniors. It's nice to share insights and perspectives. I used to have some single friends who drink like crazy, and I could never bar hop with them. I need to be able to think and be awake the next day! Kmn - I have another set of friends who often talk about the big family campout they do every year with other families they are friends with. My family is friends too, but we're never included. Why put it in my face like that? (Sigh) Where is Miss Manners when you need her!!! Nancy – childless singles can be very interesting! So can childless couples (one of my sailing buddies falls into that category) I just have a lot in common with other parents. We’re all talking about the college application process right now, since our daughter’s on the club soccer team are all high school seniors. It’s nice to share insights and perspectives.

I used to have some single friends who drink like crazy, and I could never bar hop with them. I need to be able to think and be awake the next day!

Kmn – I have another set of friends who often talk about the big family campout they do every year with other families they are friends with. My family is friends too, but we’re never included. Why put it in my face like that? (Sigh)

Where is Miss Manners when you need her!!!

]]> By: Heather http://dadshouseblog.com/2009/10/12/married-couples-party-without-single-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-18673 Heather Tue, 13 Oct 2009 00:28:10 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=8170#comment-18673 Well that's just rude! .-= Heather´s last blog ..<a href="http://mhjinich.wordpress.com/2009/10/12/not-me-monday/" rel="nofollow">Not me Monday!</a> =-. Well that’s just rude!
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