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19 Responses to “A Decade of Divorced Dating!”

1. Comment by BigLittleWolf | November 6th, 2009

   Wow. Ten years. Ironic, DM. I didn’t even realize – my marriage ended today as well, officially. I wonder if that’s why I am nostalgic about the in-laws this morning, and it showed in my writing. Hmmm. Of course, a marriage generally ends long before the date of the final decree.

   As for your decade of dating – woo hoo! And you’ve seen some doozies (including your Peruvian proposal princess). I’m raising my glass (coffee actually) to the next ten years for you – may they bring you fewer cuckoos, and a boatload of bliss. (The occasional amusing story for us, of course, continues to be welcome.)
   BigLittleWolf´s last blog ..Baptism by bubble bath (and other acts of love)

2. Comment by Jimmy | November 6th, 2009

   Dave my 2 cents is that dating has changed a lot & for us fellas kind of not for the better. First this whole cougar trend has gotten out of hand-when i try to date the the mid30s to mid40s crowd-now I’m competing with all the 20-somethings.Plus I hear what you say about the money issue. It seems like a good portion of women have accepted all the equality that they have been given but still expect men to foot the bill for everything.

3. Comment by Mindy/Single Mom Says... | November 6th, 2009

   I’m right behind you David. I’ve been divorced for almost 8 years. Not much has changed on the dating scene as far as I can tell though. Better go read your post!
   Mindy/Single Mom Says…´s last blog ..Wasted Days – or Not

4. Comment by Honey | November 6th, 2009

   Here’s to finding someone great!
   Honey´s last blog ..Keeping it Real vs. Playing the Game

5. Comment by Senorita | November 6th, 2009

   Happy Friday !

   I read your post on the other site, and found it interesting.

   Living in Silicon Valley, I totally remember the dot-com boom and how easy it was to get a job and how much more enthusiastic men were to show it off.

   I’ve only been dating for the past four years through the internets. I can’t talk about it depth like you. But interesting point of view, especially since I am in the same area.

   Good luck out there in the dating jungle my jungle friend !
   Senorita´s last blog ..Empire State of Mind

6. Comment by BigLittleWolf | November 6th, 2009

   This is for Jimmy, re the comment above: not all women are looking for a fat wallet, or tight abs. Some of us genuinely want a partner with whom we can be ourselves as individuals, and grow, as a couple. We need to pay the bills, but beyond that – the proverbial “you can’t take it with you” applies.

   I suspect there are more of “us” out there than you think. But online dating doesn’t cut it, and the ways that people used to meet 10 or 20 years ago simply don’t seem available any longer. Go figure.
   BigLittleWolf´s last blog ..Baptism by bubble bath (and other acts of love)

7. Comment by staciesmadness | November 6th, 2009

   keep on keepin on, that’s my suggestion. :D
   staciesmadness´s last blog ..You Capture-Photographer’s Choice.

8. Comment by Kristy | November 6th, 2009

   10 years and no luck…geesh…you’re doing something wrong. lol This made me laugh…a lot. It’s funny funny ha ha ha to me because I met what would be my 2nd husband 2 weeks after my ex-husband moved out. However, I did tell a friend exactly what I was looking for and she found him in her boyfriends brother. Saaawweet. Perhaps you need to hand over your qualifications to a third party and have someone else find you a woman….or you will need to learn how to find a needle in a haystack.
   Kristy´s last blog ..I almost always feel mega productive

9. Comment by dadshouse | November 6th, 2009

   Kristy – who said I had no luck? I’ve been in some great long term relationships and some fun short term flings. I’ve also had some excellent time on my own. I’m happy, at peace, self aware. Am I a failure if I don’t remarry? You seem to think so… geesh… Please know it’s possible to feel good about yourself even if you’re single.

   Even if that wasn’t the case, I find it sad that you’d laugh at someone else’s circumstance. How would you feel if people laughed at you for losing your husband to your next door neighbor? I don’t find your circumstance funny, and I’m not laughing at you. Some people feel compassion for others, rather than make fun of their situation.

   People who put others down often do so to lift themselves up.

10. Comment by Heather | November 6th, 2009

    you’re not old by any means! So since your kids are teens now, does that mean, if you meet the right woman whom wants to have children…would you say no??? just curious! (not that I’m asking for me! For any potential women out there for you! :) )
    Heather´s last blog ..11/4/09

11. Comment by Just Me... | November 6th, 2009

    David – You don’t understand. There are legions of women who, without a spouse, have little to no identity. Their very core is defined simply by having a husband.
    And if one gets away, the next one is there toot-sweet.
    And that’s because he HAS to be for her to maintain her balance, not because she found the love of her life.
    He’s simply the next one.
    Kinda sad if you think about it..
    Just Me…´s last blog ..Stir Crazy & Adoption…

12. Comment by krn | November 6th, 2009

    Dad’s~

    Just keep living life on your terms and eventually you will meet someone amazing that feels the same way about you as you do toward her. I agree with Kristy above about mentioning out loud what you desire. Ask for exactly what you want in a woman.

    Why do I think this might work? I did the same recently and the very next day ran into a man that is exactly as I described to my friend, standing in line for lunch right in front of me. We’ve been dating since that day (he asked me out after we chatted for a bit in line) and we are both very happy.

    Whatever you do, don’t stop visualizing your dream woman~

13. Comment by Keith Wilcox | November 6th, 2009

    Hey, That’s a 10 Euro bill. Sorry, I wish I had something more relevant to add. I’ll go away now :-)
    Keith Wilcox´s last blog ..Bottled Water: Sure, if you’re a Douche

14. Comment by Ginger Magnolia | November 6th, 2009

    My divorce was in November also, two years ago. I hope that doesn’t make me an Old Maid!

    Seriously, though, you seem to have tons of advice for us (at least sort-of) newbies, and I thank you for it.
    Ginger Magnolia´s last blog ..Tragedy

15. Comment by Nicki | November 7th, 2009

    This is my first big weekend on my own. I went from being married for fifteen years to being in a long term relationship with the man I thought was The One to now…*gulp*…being on my own for the first time EVER. (I married young…)
    And I guess that the point behind my rambling comment is that at first I thought ‘oh crap! I could be alone forever because of this…’ and now…I’ve moved on to thinking alone is better than lonely with the wrong man.
    I appreciate the relaity check and the change in my perception of the situation. Life really is more about what you make of it, how you view it and face it.
    Nicki´s last blog ..Little did I know…

16. Comment by Kelloggsville | November 7th, 2009

    hey! – 40 somethings are the new 30 somethings – I am so fit now and in my sexual prime – wow I’m Hot! ;0) And my kid is 10 so I’m not looking for babies either. Maybe you should add 10 years to the age you are looking for. I met my husband in an internet chat room about 9 years ago – not a partner search or an Adult one – just like a standard chat room. I saw it as the equivalant of a Blind date like you would have from a lonely hearts add but I rarely tell people because onlining meeting still has a sordid stigma – that’s wrong.

    You don’t sound unhappy to me. In fact you seem like a pretty balanced guy, so I think you should just carry on as you are – sounds like life is pretty cool and the 50 somethings that I know seem to be having a ball – I heard STD’s were ramping up a treat in that age group!!!!!!! Take care ;0)
    Kelloggsville´s last blog ..A Girls Wage

17. Comment by Elizabeth | November 7th, 2009

    David,

    I’m so glad I found you! (grin)

    I’m becoming (as hard as it is for a middle-aged free lance journalist who likes her solitude) an advocate for making an effort to meet potential dates in more natural environment. I think part of what online dating nurtures is way too many choices, twinned with the illusion that you will find perfection — without having answered your own questions and done your own personal work.

    I did some reflecting on this in a recent post on my blog:

    http://nocheapshots.blogspot.com/2009/11/sex-education-post-grad-version.html

    Now I’m hoping to meet the man who dials down my sense of irony. It’s kind of toxic.

    Glad you are doing so well!
    Elizabeth´s last blog ..My column from Lancaster

18. Comment by thewildmind | November 7th, 2009

    This is to Jimmy,
    I just had to laugh at his comment about the Cougar thing getting way out of hand. LOL! Now he knows how women have felt for centuries because as we age we’ve been competing against those 20-something-year-olds.
    Ah, yes, there is a little justice in this world after all! :D
    thewildmind´s last blog ..How Rushing A Sorority Is Like Online Dating

19. Comment by thewildmind | November 7th, 2009

    I did go over and read the post. It was good. Thanks to your info on online dating, I won’t be going back there anytime soon. Was thinking about it but now it’s a definite no.

    Agreed, the economy does have an impact on dating. Personally, I’d rather mix up my own cocktails at home with friends anyway, because a.) I don’t have to drive so I can drink whatever I want, b.) I don’t have to spend money driving around and looking for parking spots, c.) after I’ve been drinking and I have forgotten how close to midnight it is I don’t have to worry about the carriage turning back into a pumpkin on me and having to foot it home while missing a slipper and wondering what happened to those damned mice. It gets really old running around in your rags in the rain.

    Hope you’re not single for the next ten…unless you want to be. :D
    thewildmind´s last blog ..How Rushing A Sorority Is Like Online Dating

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