Comments on: Single Dad Dating – Where’s the Line of Women?

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:51:18 +0000

Ok, I realize I’m late to the party here, but I just had to chime in.

Why are women still looking for guys to take care of them financially? Is there something in our culture that still encourages female helplessness?

Isn’t it better when two mature people can deal as equals?

But I do remember (just to be provocative here) a book, it was actually on hotting up sex in marriage, where the writer-psychologist claimed that you attract people at your own level of differentiation. In other words, the folks with whom we get emotionally intimate are roughly at the same level of emotional maturity.

I’m still trying to figure THAT one out. ;-)
Elizabeth´s last blog ..Mouths to be kissed…

By: jason

jason — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 20:17:44 +0000

dad,
do you like brazillian woman? (what a question, eh???)
i wish i could set you up with this woman, but she lives in the East Bay.

Bay area logistics are sort of challenging. For me, i basically almost-wont consider dating a woman outside of the SF city limits

By: Rose

Rose — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 08:44:02 +0000

Cathouse Teri nailed it. Meeting a good match *is* tricky, and as she says, “Even then there are challenges.”

I’m recently remarried and I met Mr. Wonderful at match.com but second marriages are far more complicated than first marriages. And when you’re still licking your wounds from a failed first marriage, I think you’re more likely to be extra, extra careful about trying to do that permanent pair-bonding thing a second time.

I had 70 first dates – true story – but part of the process was realizing that internet dating sites are not the online equivalent of a Sears Romantic Partner Wish Book. As my 60th first date said, “At this point, it’s all a scratch and dent sale.”

We’re all screwed up and we’re all cracked pots and I think the key is finding someone with neuroses that you can live with, and figuring out – really and truly – what you can live with and what you can’t live without and making adjustments to your battle plan as you move through the process. And then figuring out if you’re willing to settle or if you’ve made peace with living alone and are *not* willing to settle.

In short, it’s complicated. ;)

Rose Thornton
author, The Ugly Woman’s Guide to Internet Dating
Rose´s last blog ..Mr. and Mrs. E – a real life love story

By: ilinap

ilinap — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 03:16:22 +0000

My husband and I do all the things we loved to do together before we were married (less often now that we have 2 kids though).
ilinap´s last blog ..On a Lark

By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:58:46 +0000

There’s no way to say what “women” want, any more than we women can say what “men” want. It comes down to what does T this woman want; same with this guy.

I love opera, but it isn’t on my must-have list.
Now, great sex …

Stop by my new digs tomorrow at http://www.katwilder; I’ve had some, uh, “work,” done.
Kat Wilder´s last undefined ..If you register your site for free at

By: Andrea

Andrea — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:14:30 +0000

Granted, I’m married, but my take is that when you are married you to come to appreciate the things you WISH your partner had – like a willingness to ignore football and go to the ballet once a year. Or maybe not include your mother in law on your ‘family’ vacation.

The traits others see in you are probably the ones they wish they had held out for in regards to their own spouse.
Andrea´s last blog ..First Day of School…

By: Honey

Honey — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:51:54 +0000

I have often wondered about these sorts of things…how did all the guys and gals I knew in my sorority/fraternity days go from the kegger-and-dance-club attending, casual-sex-endorsing, class-skipping folks to the homebody, monogamous, married parents with stable jobs WITHIN SIX MONTHS of graduating?!

It makes me think that there are LOTS of folks who just do what’s expected of them, in the order that it’s expected, and glean small pieces of happiness on rare occasions rather than thinking about what’s really important to them and sculpting their lives to reflect those priorities. It’s the only explanation I can come up with for people who have shifted so radically (and in such a cliched way) in such a few short years.

I mean, I don’t go clubbing anymore because I have trouble staying up that late, but – my life is still very much aligned with the priorities I have always had.
Honey´s last blog ..I’ve Had Weird Dating Experiences Lately. But I Think I Have a Girlfriend.