Tiger Woods Affair Scandal Now Pathetic
When Tiger Woods, the world’s greatest golfer, got in a one-car accident, the web was abuzz – but I couldn’t care less. When rumors swirled that Tiger had an affair, and his wife Elin Nordegren found out and went ballistic – I thought it best to let them work it out in private. When golfer Jesper Parnevik ripped Tiger Woods and apologized for introducing Elin, his former nanny, to Tiger – I thought things were going a bit too far.
But when it was leaked that Tiger Woods is paying people to keep quiet – including paying off his wife – I felt the whole damn thing had become woefully pathetic.
Tiger’s Affair
Let’s be clear – Tiger apologized on his website for “transgressions” that let his family down. There’s a woman who claims she was his lover for 2 ½ years, with a voicemail from Tiger saying she should change her voicemail greeting so as to hide her identity from his snooping wife. It’s pretty clear Tiger cheated on his wife. That sucks. (Note to anyone having an affair – even sexting your lover on a pre-paid phone can be found out.)
Did the Tiger Woods car accident warrant media attention? I don’t think so. He makes money from golf and pitching products, not directly from his image. When Jon and Kate Gosselin’s marriage fell apart, they deserved all the public scrutiny. They made their money from a reality TV show that showcasd their family life. Same with Miley Cyrus nude in bed photos. Hers is a billion dollar franchise made from a good girl image. Tiger Woods is different than them, and deserves to be left alone.
Tiger’s Wife Elin Nordegren
When I read a great article by Jessica Ashley at Yahoo Shine on what Elin should do next – Elin had already bashed out the windows of Tigers car, supposedly in a ballistic rage – I really felt bad for Tiger Woods’s wife. She didn’t ask for any of this. Just as other wives of philandering husbands didn’t ask for their husbands transgressions.
As an aside, I was irked by the last lines of the Yahoo article: “if she needs a friend to go at the rest of the windows, pass the golf clubs, Elin. I’ve got your back.” – WTF? Since when is domestic violence a healthy response to anything? And since when is it patently healthy for the sisterhood to agree with each other, not knowing any of the facts? I’m not defending Tiger’s actions, but no one really knows what anyone did.
Swedish Golfer Jesper Parnevik
Elin was Jesper Parnevik’s nanny back in the day, and Jesper introduced her to Tiger Woods. After Tiger’s discreet affair business became public, Jesper ripped Tiger, saying “I have lost all respect for him, primarily as a man and a father.”
I get Jesper’s point, but why be so public in airing your opinion? I had a buddy who chased women behind his wife’s back and asked me to lie to her about it, and I told him to f*** off. I ended our friendship. But I didn’t get on a soapbox and piss all over him in public. We’ve all sinned. No man is above another. Jesper – apologize all you want to Elin. Rip Tiger Woods all you want in private. But is there any need to take it public like you did?
Tiger Woods Prenup Renegotiated
It was leaked that Tiger and Elin are renegotiating their prenuptial agreement, giving her a reported $75 million immediately. He is allegedly paying her off so she’ll pretend that she forgives him, and she’ll continue playing the part of his wife in social settings.
To which I say: WTF!!!!!!!
I can forgive moral indiscretions without condoning them.
I can turn the other cheek.
But when someone uses their billion-dollar wealth to manipulate the behavior of other people and buy the image they are trying to project, I think it’s woefully pathetic.
Hey, Tiger – how about losing the Tiger Woods corporate enterprise image, and start being a human being. i.e. Someone with a heart and soul.
To err is human. To act like one is divine.
Tiger Woods photo by Keith Allison, some rights reserved.
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Comment by Cathy
| December 4th, 2009
Tiger is not reacting well to the adversity his cheating has created. They say how we respond to adversity shows what kind of character we have.
At this point I’m thinking Tiger is bankrupt when it comes to character. Good thing he has those billions! Too bad he won’t be able to manipulate public opinion with it.
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Comment by Ginger Magnolia
| December 4th, 2009
It’s all such a mess, and his reaction to everything has been, as you say, pathetic.
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Comment by Dual Mom
| December 4th, 2009
I think Tiger, right at this moment would love to have the luxury that most of us take for granted, the freedom to f’up in private.
I’m not excusing anything that he has done. None of it. Who am I to think that I have the right to even weigh in on what this man does with his life? Isn’t this matter between he and his wife? I do think EVERYTHING reported by the “media” (aka hounds from hell) needs to be questioned and not taken at face value. Tiger was tried and convicted in the eyes of the media the moment any hint of scandal came to light. It’s almost as though they were waiting…just waiting for him to screw up so they could pounce.
I can’t help but feel for the guy. Yes, he’s a public figure and as such needs to accept that his actions will be public. I can’t imagine the sense of pressure he must be feeling, with the eyes of millions watching and listening to EVERY move he makes and word he says. In that situation, how do you make calm, rational decisions? I wonder how many of us would have reacted differently if put in the same situation?
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Comment by Nicki
| December 4th, 2009
I’ve never been a big fan of golf, but I always liked Tiger. (My son named his first stuffed tiger Tiger Woods. Yeah, he’s original.) The problem with being a public figure is that with the fame, the fortune, comes the public scrutiny. Privacy is a trade-off. And it is understood from the start. And when there is a whiff that someone has made a mistake, there’s money to be made reporting it, unfortunately.
Whether Tiger will man up and admit his mistakes and repair his image remains to be seen. All I know is that no one’s life looks good under a microscope. And we all need to remember that.
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Comment by saint nobody
| December 4th, 2009
good lord. i’d heard vague references to tiger’s indiscretions, but somehow managed to miss all the details, so this is the first i’ve heard specifics. this is great, david. rock on!
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Comment by saint nobody
| December 4th, 2009
p.s.: um, you already posted it and it’s only 6:33am? that’s dedication!
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Comment by staciesmadness
| December 4th, 2009
yeah. meh.
I don’t condone any of their behaviors, tiger, elin, jesper (seriously? who names their kid jesper) or the media.
one of the things a good friend told me once that I try to remember through everything is…
there’s two sides to every story and then there is the truth.
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Comment by Jimmy
| December 4th, 2009
I guess I’m terrible enjoying watching celebrities squirm-its just fun. I mean with someone as sheltered and spoiled as Tiger wouldn’t the suprise bbe if he didn’t cheat? And his wife would have she been as interested if Tiger was sacking groceries at the corner store?
Comment by katherine.
| December 4th, 2009
people in Sweden name their kids Jesper.
and Elin as well.
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Comment by katherine.
| December 4th, 2009
People pay money to watch Tiger play golf.
People pay money to buy shoes and cars and deodorant that Tiger gets paid money to endorse.
Buying a ticket to the PGA, or a Nike shirt doesn’t give a person carte blanche into all the salacious details of what is obviously a very painful scandal.
People who find his behavior atrocious can stop paying money to see him play or buy the stuff he hawks.
Tiger has always tried to keep his private life out of the spot light.
I’m willing to bet most of your readers know a married couple where one has committed adultery. Some couples stay together and some couples split up. It’s got to be incredibly more difficult with the international media camped at your door.
Now me personally?
I would have used a Louisville Slugger.
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Comment by Sandra
| December 4th, 2009
I’m shocked that people were surprised that he cheated. Don’t get me wrong, there are good men out there. But in the athletic world where men are surrounded by women, money and travel, what do you expect ? I wouldn’t marry a professional athlete. All the money in the world isn’t worth that to me.
The only person I feel sorry for is Elin and her children.
If that happened to me, I don’t know what I would do. I know that I wouldn’t bash in his windows or his face. It’s not worth getting arrested over.
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Comment by Andrea
| December 4th, 2009
I read that same article on Yahoo. I also didn’t think the “let’s get our clubs and do some damage” attitude was particulary helpful. In some people’s lives that crap actually happens.
If people have problems, then either work them out and stay together or get a divorce. Do Not Cheat. I have never understood why people do that. I have also never understood why so many people pore over the lives of celebrity figures. Even ones that are obviously train wrecks.
Now who knows what actually happened and what didn’t. Unless the people directly involved (Elin and Tiger) say something, then it’s nothing but pure gossip. If you don’t have something nice to say, you shouldn’t say anything at all.
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Comment by QTMama
| December 4th, 2009
I think that one thing we are forgetting here is that this is all being reported to us … we simply, don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors.
For example, the article I read said that she smashed out the windows to get him out of the car, and sat cradling him until he was able to stand up safely.
How do we know which is correct? All of this stuff is alleged. Perhaps lawyers are reviewing the terms of the pre-nup to see what happens if/when someone cheats.
On the other hand, that voice mail that chick released to the press was damaging to his credibility for sure.
I dunno, I’m hesitant to believe everything I read … the media is sometimes so annoying.
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Comment by Kelloggsville
| December 4th, 2009
Until I get a chance to talk to all 3 of them personally, I not sure I’m in a position to judge. Having said that, your post actually told me more than I had heard previously which was TW have bumped his car. No, I haven’t been in a timewarp – seriously I missed the whole lot!!! So having received all your hear-say I say:
Domestic violence by any sex = bad
Affairs = not really worth it either put the energy in to your marriage or end it, get off the fence philanderers
Golf Product endorsement = piss all to do with private life
So they are my uninformed and rushly made opinions !!!!!!
I’m really enjoying reading your blog – you always make me think – thanks!
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Comment by Travis
| December 4th, 2009
To QTMama, and how do we know, that she doesn’t hate his guts, but still loves him so much that the sight of him getting hurt, broke her for a minute.
What I do know, is how people are responding. And, I see how the human condition tells me about these people. That people align their own personal beliefs and realities to his and her’s actions.
Women who back the swinging of club. Would swing one too.
Men who say that all men are dogs… is one.
Women, who have sympathy for Elin and the kids. Have love for there own.
Men, who stand appalled at what he did, would be more than likely appalled at even the thought of doing it themselves.
Women who hold the heads of the one that hurt them after getting into a wreck (and after attempting to hurt them). shows you they hold a deep love, but a deep pain.
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Comment by dadshouse
| December 4th, 2009
My attitude shifted when Tony Soprano reared his head. By that, I mean when it was leaked that Tiger is re-doing his prenup to pay Elin off and keep them a happy couple. Yes, that’s just alleged. But one of his alleged mistresses just cancelled a press conference. I wouldn’t be surprised if she got paid off too. Is Tiger Woods going to pay off everyone on the planet to stop speculating about him?
I know Tiger Woods is a celeb who values his privacy, and has millions watching his every move. Well, those millions were watching when he engaged in whatever “transgressions” he did. Perhaps he needed a prenup with whoever he transgressed with.
If he doesn’t want people talking about him, don’t do stupid things that end up in the public eye.
Katherine – you hit it on the head
Senorita – here in the Bay Area, I have come across women who dated pro athletes who were married. It doesn’t just happen when the athletese are traveling. But yeah, it happens a lot with athletes.
Comment by Jessica Ashley (Sassafrass)
| December 4th, 2009
David, thanks for linking to my post on Shine about Elin and Tiger.
Let me be clear: I was in no way supporting domestic violence. She took out a window. I wrote the line about Elin passing me a club to knock out another window, not Tiger, not any human being.
I am academically, professionally and personally an activist against violence, particularly within relationships. The bigger point is that we need not worry about whether Elin will stay or go. Often, the criticism in these highly publicized cases shifts to the woman, which is unnecessary, insulting, and detracting from the actions of the cheater. Not cool.
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Comment by Mindy/Single Mom Says...
| December 4th, 2009
I think it’s pretty clear that Tiger had an affair (or affairs).
That being said, it just goes to show how *some* men can be complete f*cking idiots. I mean, he’s a gazillionaire, a great golfer, his wife is gorgeous, and he wants for nothing but nooooo, thats not enough? He has to f*ck around too? And then paying people off? Including his wife?
Yeah, pathetic.
He needs to wake the f*ck up.
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Comment by trinity67
| December 4th, 2009
I don’t care who you are – everyone has the right to deal with their life, privately. Period.
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Comment by dadshouse
| December 4th, 2009
Jessica – thanks for weighing in and clarifying. I loved your piece, but the “pass the golf club” line did touch a nerve.
Mindy – I agree, it’s mind boggling to think why Tiger would screw it all up. And yet, we know nothing of his private life. Maybe behind closed doors, his wife treated him poorly, withheld sex, love, and affection as a means to manipulate him, or who knows what. We know nothing about Tiger and Elin. And know that I’m not condoning affairs. I am saying that *sometimes* men are douchebags and screw things up unprompted (just as women can do that too), and *sometimes* their wives drive them to a tipping point where they make terrible choices (just as women can be driven that way too).
We don’t know what led Tiger to make the choices he made.
Comment by QTMama
| December 4th, 2009
Travis – We don’t know, that was my whole point! :)
What we CAN say for sure, is that the media is having a field day. And until someone goes on Oprah, we may never know what really happened! ;)
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Comment by BigLittleWolf
| December 4th, 2009
You said it. Pathetic. And incredibly disappointing.
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Comment by Travis
| December 4th, 2009
@QTMama, well that was awkward. I realized that I was sounding like I was disagreeing, but I was actually agreeing and trying to add to it… oops
Travis´s last blog ..Of Dogs And Men
Comment by Mindy/Single Mom Says...
| December 4th, 2009
@ David – I agree that we dont know what was going on behind the scenes. BUT we DO know that Tiger is married and screwed around. Whatever Elin did or didn’t do doesnt justify having an affair. If you have problems in your marriage, work it out or get a divorce. Having an affair is NOT the way to work it out but a sure way to f*ck it all up and make matters worse, especially when kids are involved. It’s just plain selfish.
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Comment by dadshouse
| December 4th, 2009
Mindy – I agree affairs suck. Tiger Woods should not have screwed around. Counseling is a better alternative, and who knows, maybe Tiger and Elin were already going through that.
Marriages are complicated relationships. There are expectations by both people involved, and the relationship can shift mightily after children are born. Some people divorce because they never navigate this shift. Some women turn all their love to their children, making the men feel irrelevant. Once again, an affair is not the answer. But an affair is rarely the result of some guy waking up and for no reason saying “today I want an affair.” His reasons may have nothing to do with his wife, and everything to do with his past or his ego. Or, those reasons may be the result of his wife pushing him past a tipping point. It’s not a good choice. I’m saying it happens.
Comment by Eathan
| December 4th, 2009
1st of all.. I love this post and topic. I’ve toiled for several days on if I was going to write about this topic. But Jasper has pushed me over the edge. This is my opinion and only my opinion.. so take at that.
Any time a couple has a prenup the relationship is a business arrangement. Love is a separate issue. But I also want to point out that any married person that travels over 50% of the time is more likely to cheat out of opportunity. The fact is.. the extreme rich live in a different world than most of us. Elin knew this when she met Tiger. And if I had to guess, Jasper isn’t a saint himself.
I’ve gone to many PGA events and social functions.. there are plenty of sinful things that are happening behind the scenes that no one talks about. Tiger is a victim of his own success. The number #1 golfer.. The top earning player and most visible person. He should’ve been more careful and selective with his actions. I’m sure his wife knew what kind of lifestyle she was buying into.
Remember.. they live a life that most people only dream of. And it will only get better. They both will get over it.
Eathan´s last blog ..I Was Drunk On Thanksgiving
Comment by Rob
| December 4th, 2009
This sucks that this all happened. Why makes him think as the #1 golfer in the world that he could hide an affair. That is pathetic. I like him but what a dick moved what he did to his wife, kids, fans and sponsors. Then tries to pay his wife off. What a douche!
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Comment by Just Playin'
| December 5th, 2009
Personally, I am totally over the Tiger. He disappoints me. I don’t want to judge or moralize so I’m stopping right here….except I can have my opinion.
Comment by qc
| December 5th, 2009
Tiger Woods is not worried or concerned about his wife. He is worried about Tiger, and Tiger, dear friends, has a lot to worry about. He has screwed up in so many ways, its like this. Woods, is the best golfer,with supreme athletic abilities,and until now, has had an spotless reputation. But unfortunately for Tiger, and luckily for his wife, Tiger is a amateur cheater.
He has cause this mess, he needs to fix it. This is really a joke, he offers his wife $20 million to stay – I bet he gives charities more than $20 mil every year. His wife needs to get a good lawyer, forget the prenuptial agreements, and sue for adultery and divorce. Woods’ net worth is estimated at $500+ million. If things go right for her, I think she can wind up with at least $100 – $150 MILLION.
qc´s last blog ..Tiger Woods: Feeling Trapped?
Comment by Honey
| December 5th, 2009
I think the issue of happiness in LTRs, cheating, etc. is inherently interesting when it’s someone you know, but I don’t know Tiger, so this just doesn’t interest me.
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Comment by Travis
| December 5th, 2009
Here is a quick thought, any one remember when Michael Jordan cheated on his wife? and the payout? Yeah, it’s interesting but nobody knows, and he got it hid under the radar.
I think what is most interesting about all of this, is the impression that Tiger left on everyone about his character and integrity.
@qc, that whispers of vengeance and gold-digging… I think he is throwing money her that she doesn’t want. That she just really wants him to love her, and her him.
Travis´s last blog ..Of Dogs And Men
Comment by men should cheat
| December 5th, 2009
Men should cheat..one of the main reasons men cheat is because women no longer do their jobs in the kitchen and in the bedroom that our mothers and grandmothers did. Women also complain too much, whine too much, talk too much, and don’t know their place.
Author Six Fernandez does a great job with teaching men how to cheat in book “The Official Women’s Guide on How a Man Should Cheat”
Comment by Travis
| December 5th, 2009
@men should cheat – Hmmm, is this a guide to “How to make friends and influence people”-like site?
Based on your comment, it seems to me that you would have the aromaticity of all kinds of awesomeness.
Travis´s last blog ..Of Dogs And Men
Comment by Eathan
| December 5th, 2009
I normally don’t reply 2 times.. but I will. If relationships aren’t about money.. Then why is everyone discussing how much money it will take for her to stay with him. Very few people has the financial resources that either one of them have.
Trust me when I say this.. It is ALL about money.
Eathan´s last blog ..I Was Drunk On Thanksgiving
Comment by American in Norway
| December 5th, 2009
How could she stay? Even if she was head over heels in love with him… HOW COULD she stay after he humiliated her in front of the world with …ewww trash , for lack of a better word. I hope she doesn’t sell out & leaves his a$$… how could you ever get over somthing like this?
(shaking head)…
Run Elin RUN….
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Comment by Travis
| December 5th, 2009
@Eathan, hmmm, I think your getting vengeance, and keeping the humiliation of a mistake hidden, confused with a relationship.
Even if she got the money. it’s not to fix the relationship. It’s to keep the status-quo.
No money in the world will heal a broken heart. It will allow her to make him hurt, but that still doesn’t fix anything.
So buying her off, is only about protecting what he fears to loose. And by the reports, It doesn’t sound like he is protecting love at all.
Travis´s last blog ..I Started Smiling, Because You Were Smiling
Comment by dadshouse
| December 5th, 2009
I think it’s clear Tiger and Elin don’t have a spiritual relationship, else why the prenup. If they were in love, he would just share everything. Tiger Woods is a billion dollar franchise. His well-cultivated image is that of a caring husband and father with a devoted wife. Er, his image was that.
Comment by Keith Wilcox
| December 5th, 2009
I meant to comment on this yesterday as this seems to be a hot topic on several blogs. The thing that gets me about it all is the coverage it’s getting. None of these news organizations are asking what you just asked. Namely, Did he use his money and status to cast himself in a more favorable light? Is he silencing people? That’s much more relevant than the affair itself (which frankly I don’t really care about). The thing that should really bother us is what he did to protect his endorsements at the expense of other people. Oh, and if his wife kicked the crap out of him. That would be interesting to know too. :-)
Keith Wilcox´s last blog ..12 Days of Christmas Song
Comment by Laura C. Ries
| December 6th, 2009
And with all of this flying around the media, is no one paying attention to how this may be affeting the children?
Does Tiger and Elin really want their children to think their parents behavior is what to expect in life?
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Comment by Windy
| December 8th, 2009
Well written article, I agree: thanks for saying it so well. BTW, what kind of irony is it that someone who has sex with women-not-his-wife is willing to pay his wife to remain his wife? WTF?
Comment by Garza Girl
| December 30th, 2009
I love what you wrote. I completely agree with it. Reminds me a bit of the ancient Egyptians who bury their dead with coins on their eyes to pay off Satan for their sins/transgressions in order to allow Satan to allow them to pass to the afterlife.
I should have mentioned in my post on SV MOMs http://www.svmoms.com/2009/12/cheater-cheater-pumpkin-eater.html that Elin needs to get a STD test.
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Comment by jeen
| January 7th, 2010
Publicity and privacy in the media with the TIGER WOODS SCANDAL almost behind him it is time to look into privacy protection. I saw a show on the public tv channel with an interview of Stephen Sears Attorney talking about laws on privacy and how to stop the media blitzkrieg that can evolve.