Are You Divorced? Pick Up Line Needed
I recently watched my son compete in a post-season wrestling tournament that involved athletes from multiple cities. There were plenty of parents, including some hot moms who turned my head. I’d love to meet a woman at one of my kids’ events!
Judging by the wedding bands, though, most of these moms were married. I’m not looking for a discreet affair with a lonely housewife. I’m just a single dad looking to meet a single woman at my same life stage.
There were plenty of parents at the tournament, many of whom I knew or at least recognized. Some I only ever see at sporting events like this. Others I hadn’t seen in years. One dad was wearing a sweatshirt with a corporate logo of a company where I used to work.
“When were you there?” I asked.
“Twenty years ago” he said.
“Me, too!”
Turns out we worked in neighboring divisions. But as we talked, I noticed a woman keenly interested in our conversation. I looked at her a few times, until recognition seeped in. She was an engineer who had worked down the hall from me twenty years ago. Smart, attractive, confident.
And here she was now, a hottie mom with kids in tow.
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“Didn’t you work there, too?” I asked.
She smiled and said yes.
“I totally remember you,” I said. And I did. She has striking features, and looked as head-turning attractive now as she did back then. I’m middle-aged, and middle-aged women put me in a tizzy.
“I remember you, too,” she said.
Her young daughter grabbed her leg, and smiled.
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Twenty years ago when I worked down the hall from this woman, I had just gotten married. I was a newlywed thinking about having kids. As such, I never once showed interest in her, let alone pursued her. Though, if I’d been single at the time, I would have chased her hard.
And now, twenty years later, the only thought in my mind was – is she divorced?
Asking if a woman is divorced is a hell of a pick-up line. And one I’m not entirely comfortable using. I tried engaging her in light conversation, hoping she’d mention something about her divorce, waiting for her to run a wedding-band-free finger through her brunette hair. But nothing.
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If we’d been great friends back in the day, and wanted to get back in touch, I could have swapped emails or phone numbers with her. But like I said, I was newly married back then. We barely knew each other.
How do you ask a woman whether she’s divorced and a single mom?
In retrospect, I suppose I should have asked something about her husband, like whether he was at the wrestling tourney. Her answer would have told me all I needed to know. But in hoping she was divorced, I was mentally willing any husband of hers out of existence, and the question never popped into my head.
I need to find out which sport has the next multi-city event, then get my son training so he can make it to the post-season. Then I can try again!
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Comment by Nicki
| December 7th, 2009
Okay, I’m chuckling right now as I imagine your son in training, a la Rocky, so you can hook up. Thank you! I needed to start my Monday with a laugh. It’s a good thing I know you really are a selfless, devoted dad.
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Comment by BigLittleWolf
| December 7th, 2009
Great story to start out the week! (Good luck with this one… and keep us posted, you hottie, you! Guess something like this was on your Christmas list.)
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Comment by Mindy/Single Mom Says...
| December 7th, 2009
As I read I kept thinking, “why didn’t he just ask about the husband?” That would have been a completely legit thing to ask and great way to find out if she were single.
I hope you get that chance again soon!
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Comment by dadshouse
| December 7th, 2009
Mindy – the thing is, I didn’t know that she’d ever gotten married. Last I saw her 20 years ago, she was a hottie single woman. Now I see her with kids, and she’s a mom. Who knows what man entered the picture, and/or left.
Is six raw eggs enough to kick-start a teen boy’s training regimen?
Comment by Stacey O
| December 7th, 2009
Haha- I have found myself in similar situations with my children who play sports. I have looked at the all telling finger but I have found a lot of men don’t wear a ring(go figure) so I drop a line about their wives must be excited about watching their child play. Sometimes I get a response that tells me and other times I have to ask an additional questions. I have been able to find out pretty quick if they are married. Good Luck with the next event and hopefully your son likes eggs. :)
Comment by Sandra
| December 7th, 2009
So disappointed ! Totally thought you ended up asking her out :(
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Comment by BigLittleWolf
| December 7th, 2009
So – meanwhile – is your son picking up picking-up tips?
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Comment by Travis
| December 7th, 2009
Oh man, too funny, and caused me to backflash to when I bumped into a old girlfriend from high school.
“So how’s it going, how is MK doing?”
“Oh, she is at her dad’s”
ding!
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Comment by Cat
| December 7th, 2009
Lol, sounds like your mind was racing. Asking about her husband is good, but it can be awkward if she either never had one or the divorce was recent.
Another way to bring it up is to drop the phrase ex-wife in there somewhere. She may have been wondering the exact same thing, and it would’ve provided an opening.
Or you could always just go for it- ask for both of their e-mails and ask if she wants to get coffee sometime and catch up.
Ooh, better yet, if you do Facebook ask for her last name so you can Facebook friend her to “catch up.” Then you’ll know if she was married in the interim, and once you’ll be able to find out pretty quickly if she’s married. You may even be able to FB her with her old name.
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Comment by Kelloggsville
| December 7th, 2009
I would have tried “I’m a single dad now, but I really enjoy being able to get involved with these events with my son still. How’s it going for you?”
You have directed her thoughts to relationship status but haven’t directly asked her the question, a woman will pick up on this subtlety but won’t feel like she has been put on the spot, you have gently moved a ball into her court and she can choose to send it back.
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Comment by Danielle
| December 7th, 2009
Oh boy, single life. I am in for a treat. I better get my daughter training right now. :)
Dad- I didn’t know you were such a wuss. Come on.
Comment by dadshouse
| December 7th, 2009
Danielle – haha. Rest assured, I’m no wuss. I’ve approached plenty of women. Most of my post-divorce girlfriends I met in real life, not online. But at a school-related even like this, with kids present, the dynamics are different. I don’t want to put someone on the spot in front of her kids. And I don’t want to be the creepy single dad who hits on women non-stop, with other parents watching. I once watched a guy hit on my ex-wife in front of me, and it was most uncomfortable. http://dadshouseblog.com/2009/02/05/flirting-in-front-of-your-ex/
Comment by Leigh-Ann
| December 7th, 2009
What………you never asked about her husband! I can’t believe it “chuckle”. You had best get your son into training…….good luck second time round :)
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Comment by Ginger Magnolia
| December 8th, 2009
This was great. I find myself often looking at the ring finger of interesting or handsome men. :)
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Comment by Honey
| December 9th, 2009
Oh, I hope you get another chance! I’m sure you have a lot in common. Lance and I met because we had the same job for awhile, you know.
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Comment by krn
| December 20th, 2009
Okay, Dad’s. Here ya’ go:
He says: Yes, I remember you. I’m a single dad of two now, ages…….
She says: That’s interesting. I’m a single mom of……
He says: We ought to get together sometime. Seems like our kids have wrestling in common and we did work together, after all.
She says: Hmmm, sure. That sounds fun.
He says: Are you all busy next weekend?
She says: As chance would have it, we are free for a bit on Saturday afternoon and planned to go…..would you like to join us?
He: Yeah. *doesn’t take a chance on text or phoning* We could meet you at ___O’clock, by the ________ on the corner of ______&_______.
She: Good. Then it’s a date. We’ll be there.
They meet. Sparks ignite. They make another date and exchange numbers. Kids notice said sparks. They smile and mention how great the other kids are. “She seems nice, too,” they say. Dad’s finds himself humming later that day. Feels amorous. Thinks things. She is also thinking, feeling like buying new lingerie. Love blooms. The sex is fantastic and so not vanilla. Really, really good conversation is had. Life feels rich. Everyone is thrilled with how easily things have gone with both families when they are together. Thirteen year old son states that Dad and woman friend make too much noise at night sometimes. Makes silly arm gesture that looks like a couple making out to tease Dad. Dad promises to try to be quiet, but shrugs and smiles widely. Kids laugh and roll eyes at how gross middle aged making out must be. Dad’s is too happy to care and thinks it’s funny. Mentions that people in love naturally want to express their feelings physically sometimes. Kids hum the wedding march and roll on floor laughing at the “disgusting old people.” Are quite pleased for Dad anyhow.
Happy ending ensues.
;)