Spooning Partner Needed
I’ve been divorced a long time, and I’ve had my share of girlfriends and lovers. But with half-time custody of my two kids, I go to bed solo way too much. Spooning isn’t even on the agenda.
Usually, I don’t let the lack of spooning bother me. I love caring for my children, and I know that putting them first in my life means dating takes a back seat. And I’m able to steal away time with a lover for sex and spooning often enough. (Details of which I rarely blog about. But when I do, I let it all hang out.)
But this week, I really missed having a nightly partner for spooning in bed.
It was just one of those weeks that ran me ragged. I had multiple writing deadlines to meet, and business meetings to prepare for. My son was out sick two days, and spent both at my house. There was a multi-home conflict that needed to be smoothed out through email. It rained quite a bit, so I wasn’t getting my running and cycling in. (Okay, I admit there’s a reason some people like weightlifting at the YMCA.)
By 7pm Thursday evening, with my kids at their mom’s house, I fell asleep on the couch. I just zonked out.
When I awoke a few hours later, ready to drag myself to bed, it hit me – I did not want to go to bed alone this night. I wanted a spooning partner to curl up with, cuddle and snuggle with. Someone to keep warm with when I’m feeling weary on a cold night. Spooning is a very good thing.
I didn’t want to go out on a date. I didn’t want to entertain a friend with benefits. I didn’t want car sex or couch sex or sex in the backyard.
I just wanted to spoon the night away with a woman who understood that sleeping and spooning with her this night really meant sleeping and spooning.
Blogging is one way to send a message of intention to the universe. So universe, listen up -
Wanted: one partner in spooning. Relationship potential a must.
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Comment by BigLittleWolf
| January 15th, 2010
Great closing line. Surely, you’ll get a flood of candidates. Keep us posted!
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Comment by Cece
| January 15th, 2010
Too bad I’m in New Mexico recovering from shoulder surgery!
Cece
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Comment by mama llama
| January 15th, 2010
That would be nice. One day…
I sincerely hope you find what you are looking for.
Be well, Dads. Have a great weekend!
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Comment by Heather
| January 15th, 2010
Hope you find her!!!
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Comment by Nicki
| January 15th, 2010
Mmmm. I miss spooning. Thanks.
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Comment by Mindy/Single Mom Says...
| January 15th, 2010
Nothing like spooning, huh?
Hope you find someone for that soon!
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Comment by staciesmadness
| January 15th, 2010
*sigh*
I hear ya.
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Comment by saint nobody
| January 15th, 2010
i think a LOT of single parents (and other singles) can relate to this.
do you know this book?
http://www.amazon.com/Art-Spooning-Cuddlers-Handbook/dp/0762402709
it looks cute. a diversion, at least.
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Comment by Laura
| January 15th, 2010
Aw dude – I hear you.
The one thing I love about being in a relationship is that there are arms to hold me when I have had a rough day!
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Comment by Sandrita
| January 15th, 2010
Spooning in a spoon, morning night and noon, when you’re up you’re sunny side up, spooning in a spoon !
Oh sorry, was getting carried away for a second.
You know, you could always post an ad on Craigslist, but beware because then you run the risk of me finding it and “translating” it on my blog.
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Comment by Kelloggsville
| January 15th, 2010
Flight booked – I’ll be there Tuesday !
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Comment by dadshouse
| January 15th, 2010
Laura – I hear you! I’ve been visualizing and remembering the spooning from relationships past. And don’t get me wrong, I do spoon with lovers. But lovers aren’t an every night thing.
Sandra – your CL translations are hilarious! You should write a book. CL has helped me find lovers, but never worked for finding a girlfriend. Same as other online dating sites. Meeting people in real life is best!
BLW – whenever I put out a message to the universe and back it with gratitude and joy and focus, something manifests.
Comment by Just Me...
| January 15th, 2010
Let us know if shooting those desires out into the cosmos via blog works for you!! Good Luck!! :)
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Comment by Abby Carter
| January 15th, 2010
Yes, I wake almost every morning with this incredibly visceral sense of holding someone in my arms. I imagine it as being like an amputee, with phantom limb pain.
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Comment by Mark
| January 15th, 2010
Sometimes we simply need to be spooned instead of forked!
For those rainy days, check out Wii Active or Wii fit. Fun ways to get some exercise inside.
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Comment by notasoccermom
| January 15th, 2010
I have been alone a bit longer and this post really hit me with emotion. I get the same feelings, often.
The winter blues make this even stronger.
Good luck! Maybe in the meantime you can buy a body pillow or a blow up doll? just kidding
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Comment by Ginger Magnolia
| January 15th, 2010
Spooned instead of forked…snort.
Sometimes you just need someone to catch you.
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Comment by Elizabeth
| January 15th, 2010
I think sometimes it’s good to feel the loneliness…and let the “universe” know again how sincere you are!
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Comment by Karen
| January 16th, 2010
I had a similar thought on Friday morning when I woke up. I can go weeks at a time without any physical contact to speak of, and I miss it. Just a hug or a hand on the small of my back would be so nice.
My son (17, no hugging there) only lives with me, doesn’t see his dad, as a result my life never includes any sleepovers, I never stay anywhere else of course, and no one stays here. Is that what you’d do do you think?
Anyway, my point is, sometimes I feel like those failure to thrive babies, no hug, no kisses, no hand on my back for days, maybe weeks at a time. And certainly no spooning.
I hope the universe hears your intentions and gives you a wonderful answer.
Comment by Cece
| January 16th, 2010
We have a similar “dance” going on here! Activity then silence. Swinging between the two. Not easy!
Cece
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Comment by BigLittleWolf
| January 16th, 2010
DM, I know you’re contemplating spooning – and more a Tour de France guy than a tennis guy – but the Australian Open is about to begin – and it’s spectacular stuff. No chance you’ll give this sport a go as a spectator? If nothing else, you may enjoy these superb women athletes in motion. A superb sport, and as for the players, not so hard on the eyes.
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Comment by Jenni
| January 16th, 2010
When I first became separated, I hated going home to an empty bed. Then I got use to it.
But I’ve noticed that since I’ve started getting back out there and dating, and I find someone I really connect with and enjoy their company, when I get home I hate the empty bed again.
There have been a few times that I’ve grabbed an extra pillow, or even one of the kids’ teddy bears.
For me, cuddling & spooning are a must for any relationship. =)
Good luck!
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Comment by Local London Adult Dating
| January 18th, 2010
I was going to say something about graduating to soup ladles, but it wasn’t funny…
Comment by Danielle
| January 18th, 2010
This is something that I do miss a lot.