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In 2008, Microsoft researchers looked at a huge instant messenger database (180 billion messages), and proved we are all within six degrees of instant messaging separation from each other.
This is great news for the game Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon, where you try make movie associations between actors to the Hollywood star. It was a rage back in the 90’s. For instance:
Elvis was in Change of Habit with Ed Asner
Asner was in JFK with Kevin Bacon
So Ed Asner is one degree from Kevin Bacon, and Elvis is two.
How does this tie-in to Dad’s House blog? A college roommate of mine was a computer effects supervisor for the Kevin Bacon movie Hollow Man.
Which makes me two degrees from Kevin Bacon (i.e. the same as Elvis.)
I figure if IM counts as a degree of separation, so does blogging. Which means if you’re a friend of mine, you’re three degress of Kevin Bacon. That’s pretty damn awesome, don’t you think?
Wouldn’t you know, I finally set up a Facebook page for people who read Dad’s House. Go there and become a fan of David Mott writer, and make the Kevin Bacon association official:
David Mott, Dad’s House blog, Facebook Page – One Degree Closer to Kevin Bacon
(Or just do it because you like Dad’s House blog, or want to follow my writing projects.)
As QTMama might say, bacon goes good with everything. And now Kevin Bacon is less than six degrees away.
Here’s a starter list of Single Parents on Facebook:
QTMama
Kat Wilder
Big Little Wolf’s Daily Plate of Crazy
Ts Quest
Single Mom Says
Dad’s House
Single Parents Connection Group on Facebook
Single parents, feel free to add your Facebook page url in a comment below.
Hollow Man trailer, starring Kevin Bacon, youtube video
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February 26th, 2010
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I have a great relationship with my teen daughter. When she was eleven and entering sixth grade, I sat her down and talked to her about the ins and outs of sex. We’ve talked about her relationships, and my relationships, and relationships on Grey’s Anatomy. I feel like we can talk about anything.
Except soccer.
She’s been playing soccer since she was five. I played one asthma-filled season as a youth, and never really learned the game’s strategies until I was an Italian Serie-A loving adult. (Tivo rocks.)
So if I ever said “Italy should play great in this year’s World Cup,” she’d roll her eyes.
And if I dared to criticize her, “I was surprised you lost that ball to the girl in front of your own goal. You had her beat.” She’d make an angry face and tell me to shut up.
But something has changed of late. My daughter is playing her varsity high school season, and she’s suddenly fine with me chatting with her about the beautiful game. More than that, she lets me analyze her play in father-daughter post-game recaps. She seems to even value my opinion. WTF?
“You seemed a little slow for the first fifteen minutes of the game,” I’d say. “But then you picked it up with that quick run up the middle, when you stopped number eleven.”
“She was a pain,” my daughter would say.
“You beat her good.”
She’d nod her head, remembering the game with me.
I don’t know if she likes the extra set of eyes helping her improve her game tactics. Or if she’s now comfortable and confident enough with her own play, she can stand to hear it described by someone else.
Or maybe she just likes that her dad is there watching.
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February 25th, 2010
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I recently shared about a bar experience where some guy tried to join a table of women by using one of the best funny pickup lines I’d ever heard.
But the better part of that night was being at that table. The women I drank with that night truly rocked. Feminine energy is a very good thing.
I’m pretty sure the local moms would never drink martinis with me in a bar on a Friday night.
So how come some moms I’d just met were fine drinking with me? And why did it mean so much?
Head over to the Silicon Valley Moms Blog for my take on:
Feminine Energy from Moms In a Bar
(If that pre-programmed link doesn’t work, go straight to Dad’s House posts at SV Moms)
Leave a comment, then come on back and have an espresso coffee martini. Better than last time’s prune juice martini, for sure!
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February 24th, 2010
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single dads |
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A single mom named Stephanie recently left a comment on my post about divorced parents with one parent moving away.
Seems one day her 39-year-old husband admitted he was in an older man younger woman relationship, and left his wife and 18-month-old son to live in another country with his 21-year-old mistress. Sad and tragic, to say the least. And while I don’t mean to judge – I haven’t walked in his or anyone else’s shoes – in my book, dads who desert their families pretty much suck.
I understand divorce can happen for a variety of reasons. Tiger Woods had a zillion mistresses and his wife Erin is contemplating divorce. Jon and Kate Gosselin had marital problems of their own.
But when a parent walks completely away from their child, I just don’t get it. Parenting is awesome. I didn’t know what love is until I became a parent. Being a dad is my greatest joy. (Like I said, though, I haven’t walked in the deserting dad’s shoes.)
Single mom Stephanie raised her son by herself, with some help from her mom. The dad saw the boy on weekends every two months until the boy was three, and then only saw him once. He contributes financially every month, so technically he’s not a deadbeat dad. Money aside, he’s out of the picture.
Now the boy is five, and dad wants back in. At the very least, he wants his extended family to meet his son.
Stephanie wants to know what Dad’s House readers think. Should she give her ex the proverbial finger? Or take the higher road and let him see his son?
As a single father who encourages dads to stay involved with their kids, you might think I’d say let him back in. But given the circumstances of this situation – with dad leaving his family for a much younger woman in a different country, and barely making an effort to see his child – makes me cringe.
Granted, maybe the dad was going through stuff and has changed. Surely he deserves to see his own flesh and blood. But single mom Stephanie shouldn’t do a thing to make that happen. He can come to them.
As for the dad getting more involved… I really don’t see how Stephanie can trust him again. Will he stick around for a few weeks, then split again? Granted, he sent money every month. But she took care of the boy every day! Physical presence counts for a lot in my book.
Dad’s House readers, the floor is yours.
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February 23rd, 2010
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I’ve heard some funny pick up lines in my day, but this past Friday night I heard the funniest pick up line yet. It was only one word, but it had us laughing our asses off all weekend.
I was at a writers conference finding my muse, and we spent the day Friday critiquing each other’s novel pitches and story arcs, as well as discussing prose written by famous authors.
It was intense, and after a long day, we all needed a drink.
By the time I hit the bar, Happy Hour was in full force. At first, I was chatting with folks at the bar, but there was a table full of women who were having way too much fun. I wanted to party with them. As soon as I got my martini, I went over.
I didn’t use any funny pick up lines, though I did say something funny when I joined them. (They laughed.) They were conference attendees, most of them married moms. In no time, we were laughing and drinking and partying our asses off. We were definitely putting the Happy in Happy Hour.
Other guys in the bar weren’t dumb, and came over too. Pretty soon, one guy was standing right next to me, cradling a beer, looking at the women. He was tall, wearing a track suit, looking a little out of place. I didn’t recognize him from the writing day.
“Are you part of the conference?” I asked.
He responded with one word: “Absolutely.”
Oh my god, if ever there was a smooth operator trying to worm his way into a table full of women having fun (like I had already wormed my way in), this guy was it! I didn’t believe for one minute that he was part of the conference. I joked with one of the moms that as funny pick up lines go, his was the best. We almost asked him what his novel was about, but we figured he’d just start making stuff up, and we’d heard enough pitches for one day. We wanted to drink. He hung around for a while, then left.
The next morning, we saw him again! He was walking around the hotel lobby with a piece of paper that had a novel pitch on it. This guy was too much! We wondered if he stayed up late writing it. We joked that he would do anything to keep the party going with us.
“Watch, he’s not a writer, and he’s the one person who will get a book deal,” my friend joked.
“He’s like Forrest Gump,” I said.
Wouldn’t you know, the guy followed us into the conference room!
At this point, we sort of figured he actually was with the conference, and we simply hadn’t realized it before. More fun for us, though – we kept joking that he was just some guy using funny pick up lines to meet women.
“Are you part of the coaches conference? Accountants conference? Dairy producers conference?”
“Absolutely!”
Finally, he got up to give his pitch. His novel was complex, with foreign-sounding names, a bit hard to follow. It sounded interesting, but the workshop leader suggested it might be hard to sell.
The guy wasn’t about to take ‘no’ so easily. He launched into an impassioned speech about why this was such an important work for him to create, and for the world to read. And wouldn’t you know, we were truly moved. The room exploded in applause. Bravo! I hope he gets that book deal.
The inspiration didn’t stop there. Next time I need any funny pick up lines, I’m going to try his one word approach that had us laughing all weekend.
Absolutely.
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February 22nd, 2010
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bar scene |
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Every writer needs a muse. And I’m currently at a place where I need mine. I’m taking Friday off from the blogosphere to get some much needed a-muse-ment.
My traditional muse is a woman, someone sexy, vibrant, and fun. Whether she’s sending me dirty text messages, begging for sex on the side of the road on a funny wine date, wanting wild backyard sex with a raccoon watching, spooning in bed, or wanting sex on the couch – it can be a re-energizing boost to my creative spirits.
Of course, not all muses are lovers. Sometimes inspiration comes in the form of a hard-assed drill sergeant at a writer’s boot camp, pushing me to squeeze 10% more out of the 100% I’m already giving.
Either way, I won’t be blogging. And so I leave you all with yet another Muse, the band, doing Supermassive Black Hole.
Interesting side note: Silversun Pickups will open for Muse in the Bay Area….
(Note: a few times when I played this, youtube inserted a 30-second ad near the start of the video. To which I say WTF!? It seems that leaving the page after the ad starts, then returning and playing the video again lets it play ad-free. Shhhhhh, don’t tell youtube…. )
Muse, Supermassive Black Hole official video
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February 19th, 2010
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music |
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My daughter is almost 18, and like any teenager she takes off for long stretches to hang out with her friends. For instance, the other day after soccer practice, she ran into some of her friends at Jamba Juice, and on the spur of the moment they all drove to the Apple store to buy an iPod cable. (Party on, Silicon Valley style! Haha)
I used to have to deal with missed curfews and late-night texts asking for the Dominos Pizza phone number, but these days those problems are gone.
My teen daughter and her friends are hanging out at my house.
They play epic games of Risk. They eat epic amounts of popcorn. (Healthy diets for teen athletes include that food, right?) They watch an epic number of TV shows off their iPod on my TV. (That Apple cable rocks.) They stay up late watching the Olympics.
My house is suddenly the cool place to hang out. Who knows why? Of course, I’m doing nothing to blow it.
The other night I was making popcorn on the stove. I have one of those Whirly Crank Handle things. I swear, it’s better tasting (and healthier) than microwave.
Sometimes my stove doesn’t light, and so I used a match to get it going. I’m whirlying away when two of my daughter’s friends came in for drinks.
“Is something burning?” the teen boy asked.
“I’m making popcorn,” I said. “But it’s not burning.”
“No, something’s burning. I smell burnt sulfur.”
Remember the movie, About Schmidt? If so, you’ll recognize this.
“You mean, like someone lit a match?” I asked.
“Yeah, exactly!” he said.
“I just used the bathroom.”
Oops. Awkward moment. Their eyes went wide in shock, they couldn’t believe I’d actually said that. Here I was, an old man sharing too much info about my sphincter.
But then I let out a hearty laugh, and they realized I was joking them big time. They laughed with me, then made a bee-line back to the TV room.
Next time I have custody, I’ll find out if my cool parent points are still at epic enough levels for the kids to hang at Dad’s house.
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February 18th, 2010
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parenting |
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